A few years ago, a friend of mine wrote a pretty intense Facebook post on Valentine's Day. I won't repeat it because I don't want to embarrass the person but let's just say it was some next level hostility.
It's frustrating. We go from Valentine's Day meaning "Give a card to everyone your class" to "Are you in love, yes or no? Follow up question: does s/he love you back or have you made this whole thing up in your head (again)? Be honest. Oh, and FYI, everyone you know from college is richer, skinnier, and happier than you."
I know the feeling. You see some dude in front of you at Walgreen's buying an artificial rose with a sound chip that plays Mozart and think, "Eh, whatever." But holy crap - to watch your news feed fill up with phone snaps of expensive meals and rooftop kisses is just plain irritating.
I used to think, "I don't buy into this fake holiday," until you realize that's not even a good come back. All holidays are fake.
But love isn't fake. And there are so many ways to do so. Since it's Monday, the worst day of the week for Garfield the cat and others, let's just dive right in and think about your first love.
Well, I've been told it should be you. However, a lot of us are still working on self love every goddamn day. So here are a few quotes to reframe the week if Valentine's Day gives you a headache.
“You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
(Voice in my head, "Yeah, right.")
“You are beautiful. Know this. Anyone who tells you otherwise is simply lying. You are beautiful.”
— Steve Maraboli
(Voice in my head, "Shut up.")
“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”
— Deborah Day
(Voice in my head, "But I want to be perfect like decorating magazines and TV shows.")
See friends, it's not easy for anyone. But it can change. Like the Facebook friend I mentioned at the beginning of this entry? Totally shacked up now.